Bereavement is the grief and mourning experienced following the death of someone important to you. This sounds very clinical, doesn't it? At some point in our lives, we all go through the painful experience of losing someone. I was directed by spirit to write on loss. I am by no means an expert, but I can tell you of my own experiences, having lost my mum, dad, brother, sister, two brothers-in-law, nephews, uncles, aunties and friends. At one stage, we had so many losses in the family I didn't think I could cope.
I remember when my mother passed away a few years ago, people came to our house to offer my father and my family condolences. One man said to my father, " I don't know what to say," My father replied, "there is nothing to say". Because no matter what anyone said at the time, it didn't make things better. We still felt the same and were going through emotional pain. Don't get me wrong, it was nice of people to come and pay their respects, but it didn't change how we felt at the time.
Grief is a natural response to losing someone you loved or cared for. I don't believe anyone has the right to tell you how to grieve; it's a personal thing. Everyone grieves differently and spends time at this stage in different amounts.
You know that old saying "time heals all wounds"; to some extent, that is correct. The pain lessens some, and we start to live our lives a bit at a time. That doesn't mean we forget our loved ones or no longer think of them. It just doesn't hurt as much, or perhaps we learn to live with it.
When all our loved ones were passing, I wasn't invested in spirit like I am today.
If I knew the things I know now, I would say: Yes, it hurts, and time will help to an extent. Our loved ones are never truly gone. I have seen all my loved ones in spirit and spoken to some of them on multiple occasions. I saw my mother in a dream six months after her passing.
She said, "death was easy, like floating". I knew it was more than just a dream. Since then, I have seen family and friends in spirit and in dreams. Spirits are just people in a different form. We leave our physical selves behind and become energy. I like to compare it to a butterfly, where we are in a cocoon and then change and emerge. Different but beautiful.
When we think about and speak of our loved ones, they know and hear us. You can talk to your loved one, and they will hear you. I don't fear death because I know it's not the end. I have always known even before developing.
So they are never really gone, only a thought and feeling away. I hope this gives some comfort and understanding. - Katie
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